How to learn to have interesting conversations, even with complete strangers. Conversation rules

20.09.2019

How good do you think you are? How long have you had awkward pauses in your conversation? A few tips in this resource will help you become a better conversationalist and make awkward pauses a thing of the past. Being a good conversationalist is just a combination of different communication methods. Body language, a few tricks, and you can have a casual conversation with anyone.

Start with a question

Do you want people to remember you? Ask him interest Ask and listen carefully. This will give you the opportunity to make friends.

Find out someone else's opinion

For example:

Could you recommend a good cocktail for me?
Do you know the city well? Can you tell me a good restaurant?
Where did you buy this phone / accessory / clothing?
What do you think of this party?

Applying an economic concept to a conversation

Imagine that your conversation is a bank. If you have a lot of investments, then things are going well. If loans are more than investments, then something should be changed. Transferring this metaphor to communication, we get this.

Emotional investments

Agree with the interlocutor
Correct body language
Use the interlocutor's name
Tell jokes
Encourage the other person's ideas
Listen attentively
Ask for an opinion

Emotional loans

Disagree with the interlocutor
Wrong body language
Talk a lot about yourself
Flattery
Vulgar and personal questions

Imagine starting your conversation with zero balance and do whatever it takes to increase it!

Copy body language

The practice of copying body language can be of great help. Did your interlocutor cross his legs? Cross yours. Put your hands on the table? Do the same. Everything is very simple. Timing is also very important. Wait for the moment:

When the other person tells you something interesting
When you wonder
When the other person is proud of something

And then copy it. The person will think that you empathize with him and it will be great if this is true.

How to talk about yourself and not be terribly boring

You can be incredibly charismatic and interesting person... But, people are simply not interested in hearing about others, no matter how wonderful you are. If you continue to follow our economic concept, then you must make an emotional investment. Make the interlocutor feel emotions and he will be very interested in talking with you.

Change the depth of the conversation

Do you know the proverb: small minds discuss people, medium - events, and great - ideas? Use this. Start small and play a trick on someone, then get the other person's opinion on an event, and then move on to ideas related to that event. For example:

Introduction: Hi, how was your day?

Event: Are you planning something for Valentine's Day with Katya?

Idea: I saw an article on the internet about how we perverted Valentine's Day compared to its traditional meaning.

Ask the other person to be interesting

Each person is interesting in their own way, but few are really revealed. So give them a chance to open up and they will only think about you. Here's a simple example:

Tell me something interesting about yourself.

This is a great conversation starter that makes you look more attentive and at the same time gives you the opportunity to learn something really interesting about the person.

How to ask people what they are doing

How do you spend your time when not ...?

Instead of a void, there should be something at the end that you know about the person. Here are some examples:

How do you spend your time when you are not writing your exciting blog?

How do you spend your time when you are not on Facebook?

How do you spend your time when you don't go to the gym?

Be a good listener

If you asked me for one piece of advice on how to become a good conversationalist, I would stop there. This is the most important part. Listen to the person. Be genuinely interested in what he is talking about. Lead the other person's story with your questions. Take an interest in him and he will be interested in you in return.

The pace of the conversation

Basically, a fast paced conversation is a sign of nervousness and excitement, while a moderate pace is a sign of confidence. Therefore, try to speak at a moderate pace, but if your interlocutor speaks at a fast pace, copy him and speak as well.

Change the topic of conversation correctly

This happened to everyone: you are discussing something with your acquaintance, but then a third person rushes into your conversation and turns the whole conversation in his direction. This is terribly annoying. But, only if you are doing it wrong. You should make an emotional investment at the end of your monologue. It will distract attention and you won't look like an idiot changing the subject. Example:

Chris: My son is a very good footballer.

Me: Cool! You once talked about where he trained. My son recently earned a black belt in Karate and is leaving for Korea on a student exchange program. Didn't your son train in Korea? Can you give me some tips?

In this dialogue, the emotional investment was a compliment to Chris and his son. I changed the topic of the conversation to the one I needed, doing it right.

Give the right compliments

Compliments are a very powerful tool when used correctly. The right way using compliments - making them about what a person is proud of. For example:

If the person is in good shape and it is obvious that they spend a lot of time in the gym, compliment their figure.
If the person is successful in their career, compliment their creativity, business acumen, or intelligence.

Don't compliment people’s qualities if they haven’t achieved it on their own. Do not speak beautiful girl that she is beautiful. She already knows it.

Unite friends

If you are at a party or social event, you are unlikely to be standing in one place. Most likely, you will walk from one group of acquaintances to another. If you see people you know in different groups, don't be afraid to invite them to talk together. Do it with a joke and without stress. And then your friends will remember you as a very friendly person.

Start with a question

Do you want people to remember you? Ask him an interesting question and listen carefully to him. This will give you the opportunity to make friends.

Find out someone else's opinion

For example:

Could you recommend a good cocktail for me?
Do you know the city well? Can you tell me a good restaurant?
Where did you buy this phone / accessory / clothing?
What do you think of this party?

Applying an economic concept to a conversation

Emotional investments

Agree with the interlocutor
Correct body language
Use the interlocutor's name
Tell jokes
Encourage the other person's ideas
Listen attentively
Ask for an opinion

Emotional loans

Disagree with the interlocutor
Wrong body language
Talk a lot about yourself
Flattery
Vulgar and personal questions

Imagine starting your conversation with zero balance and do whatever it takes to increase it!

Copy body language

When the other person tells you something interesting
When you wonder
When the other person is proud of something

And then copy it. The person will think that you empathize with him and it will be great if this is true.

How to talk about yourself and not be terribly boring

You can be incredibly charismatic and interesting person. But, people are simply not interested in hearing about others, no matter how wonderful you are. If you continue to follow our economic concept, then you must make an emotional investment. Make the interlocutor feel emotions and he will be very interested in talking with you.

Change the depth of the conversation

Introduction: Hi, how was your day?

Event: Are you planning something for Valentine's Day with Katya?

Idea: I saw an article on the internet about how we perverted Valentine's Day compared to its traditional meaning.

Ask the other person to be interesting

Each person is interesting in their own way, but few are really revealed. So give them a chance to open up and they will only think about you. Here's a simple example:

Tell me something interesting about yourself.

This is a great conversation starter that makes you look more attentive and at the same time gives you the opportunity to learn something really interesting about the person.

How to ask people what they are doing

How do you spend your time when not ...?

Instead of a void, there should be something at the end that you know about the person. Here are some examples:

How do you spend your time when you are not writing your exciting blog?

How do you spend your time when you are not on Facebook?

How do you spend your time when you don't go to the gym?

Be a good listener

The pace of the conversation

Change the topic of conversation correctly

Chris: My son is a very good footballer.

Me: Cool! You once talked about where he trained. My son recently earned a black belt in Karate and is leaving for Korea on a student exchange program. Didn't your son train in Korea? Can you give me some tips?

In this dialogue, the emotional investment was a compliment to Chris and his son. I changed the topic of the conversation to the one I needed, doing it right.

Give the right compliments

Compliments are a very powerful tool when used correctly. The correct way to use compliments is to make them about what the person is proud of. For example:

If the person is in good shape and it is obvious that they spend a lot of time in the gym, compliment their figure.
If the person is successful in their career, compliment their creativity, business acumen, or intelligence.

Don't compliment people’s qualities if they haven’t achieved it on their own. Don't tell a beautiful girl that she is beautiful. She already knows it.

Unite friends

Communication plays a very significant role in our life. It is during a conversation with a person that we determine whether he is pleasant to us or not, what he is, whether we want to have any relationship with him. Do you know how to communicate correctly?

1. According to etiquette during communication your speech should bear the color of politeness and respect for the interlocutor. Tone to be calm, interested, trusting. Obscene expressions, slang, common words are "weedy" language. Try not to consume them.

3. It is very important to start any topic of conversation, to be sure that the interlocutor is as interested as you are, and he is ready to discuss it with you.

- Etiquette prohibits unfamiliar people from asking intimate questions. And to a tactless question asked to you, you can politely answer that you would like to remain silent on this topic.

- Try not to touch upon those topics in which the opinion of the interlocutor may differ, so as not to become inadvertently the instigator of the conflict. After all, as you know, there is no dispute about tastes.

- Gossip and negative statements about someone or something are unacceptable in a cultural society. Be positive! This will endear the other person to you.

- Attempts to participate in a conversation look quite ugly on a topic that is completely far from you. It is better to keep quiet modestly while there is a discussion that you do not understand. Or honestly admit that they are not strong in this matter.

- Also, you should not start a topic of conversation in which the interlocutor, unlike you, absolutely does not understand at all, so as not to put the person in an awkward position.

- It is ugly to praise yourself, and even more so to turn into continuous praises of your beloved.

- Do not joke if you are not sure that the interlocutor will appreciate your sense of humor. You can offend a person inadvertently.

- If new participants in the conversation have joined you, briefly introduce them to the essence of your conversation. Don't you want that? In this case, move the conversation to a new topic (keep in mind that it should be of interest to all participants in the conversation).

- There are situations when not every topic is appropriate in a conversation. Do not talk about sad things at celebrations, about joyful things at a funeral ceremony, about unpleasant things during a feast.

- As for the redundancy of information, in any case, one should not overuse the interlocutor's patience and tire him too much with a conversation on the same topic for a long time.

4. Skill is considered good form. This means taking part in a conversation, asking questions, responding to information received. Try so that the interlocutor does not have to read a lecture for you, and during the pauses, think feverishly about what else to try to interest you. You should also not turn your own speech into a tedious monologue, not allowing the interlocutors to insert a word.

- In no case during a conversation, do not yawn or look around, even if it’s boring. Look at the speaker.

- The ability to listen attentively makes a person very beautiful in the eyes of his interlocutor.

- Interrupting someone's speech is unacceptable, even if you are knowledgeable in this matter the best way.

- It is indecent to ignore questions.

- According to etiquette, it is not accepted to give preference to someone from the company during a conversation. Communicate with everyone in the conversation.

- It is unacceptable to whisper in a company or use ambiguous expressions that are not clear to everyone present. Do you have something to say in private to one of the guests? You can discuss a topic that interests you later, when you are alone. A person who speaks a language other than the one that speaks in a given circle of people is supposed to translate the conversation.

- It is not accepted to communicate at a long distance, trying to shout to the interlocutor.

- Speak without grimaces and gestures. And even more so, you shouldn't slap people on the back, poke your finger at them, grab the elbow or a button of clothing. Etiquette does not accept this.

Observing the familiar rules of communication etiquette from childhood, you will attract the sympathy of the people around you and you will always be a welcome guest in any company. It's worth learning for this to conduct a conversation correctly!

Natalia Vladimirova specially for

Conversation on the topic: “How to behave in emergency situations»

Objectives: to repeat with children the rules of behavior in extreme situations; contribute to the formation of a serious attitude towards one's own life and towards the safety of others; encourage compliance with the necessary safety rules at home, on the street, in transport; develop self-confidence, desire to come nor help people.

Classroom design: a) at recess before class hour, write in chalk on the blackboard (or hang up a poster)
telephone numbers of services: 01 - fire protection; 02-police; 03- Ambulance; 04- gas service;

c) prepare tasks for the conversation.

Introduction.

Extreme Situation Conversation:

a) round 1 - extreme situations at home;

b) round 2 - extreme situations on the street;

c) round 3 - first aid to the injured;

d) round 4 - traffic rules.

3. Summing up (reflection).

Stroke class hour

I. Introduction

Classroom teacher... Every morning, a person leaves the house and finds himself in a huge world in which anything can happen, from a bruise to a terrorist attack. These troubles are called extreme situations. Extreme means difficult, difficult. Extreme situations mean complex, difficult, unpleasant situations in which a person may find himself.

How to survive in this world, how to make decisions quickly and correctly, where to go for help? (Points to the blackboard where the phone numbers of the services are written.)

But now another organization has appeared in Russia, which will always come to the rescue. This is the Rescue Service! The rescue service is an organization that is always ready to come to the aid of any person free of charge. The Rescue Service employs brave, noble ones, strong people- rescuers.

But for the first time, minutes after the incident, each person can become a salvation service for himself.

And if he can save himself, he can help other people as well. This means that he can become a rescuer.

P. "Extreme situation"

Classroom teacher.

We decided to organize a Rescue Service in our class. It should include the most experienced and skilled rescuers. First task:

"Extreme situation".

Tour 1. Extreme situations at home

Host 1. Extreme situations that lie in wait for us at home.

Assignments for the first round

No. 1. You are on the street. Parents at work. Suddenly, you smell a pungent smoke and see a house on fire.

Call 01, call firefighters.

2. Call for help from adults.

"Tricky" questions:

1. Should I try to extinguish myself.

# 2. You watch TV in your home. Grandma is napping in the next room. Suddenly, the TV explodes and begins to smoke heavily. The room fills with smoke. Your actions.

Unplug the TV cord from the wall outlet.

Throw a thick blanket over the TV.

Wet a handkerchief and breathe through it.

Close windows tightly

Pick up grandma and leave the room immediately, tight
closing the door behind him.

6.Call 01, call firefighters
"Tricky" questions:

Maybe first you had to pour a bucket of water over the burning TV?

(Do not extinguish the switched on electrical appliances with water - there will be an electric shock.)

And if the TV is immediately engulfed in a strong flame, you need to cover it with a blanket and try to extinguish the fire? (No, you need to go out immediately and call O1.)

If your eyes are corroded by smoke, what to do? (Close your eyes, move around, holding onto the walls.)

No. 3. December evening. You came home from school and from the doorway you smelled a strong smell of gas. The parents are not at home. Your actions.

Do not light matches, candles, lighters.

Switch off the gas burners.

Turn off the gas immediately.

Switch off electrical appliances.

Open the vents.

If gas continues to flow, call from neighbors in gas service by phone 04.

"Tricky" questions:

Is it possible to try to repair yourself gas stove: unscrew the hotplates,

burners, etc.? (It is forbidden.)

Is it possible to check for gas leaks by holding a match near the burner?
(It is impossible, an explosion may thunder.)

Do I need to drink any medicine for gas poisoning "
(No, only as directed by a doctor.)

Tour 2. Extreme situations on the street

Host 2. Extreme situations on the street.

Assignments for the second round

No. 1. While walking through the woods during a fire-hazardous period (dry weather and wind), you caught the smell of smoke, and determined that you were in a forest fire zone. Your actions.

Determine the direction of the wind and the spread of the fire.

Move quickly out of the fire zone towards the wind, if possible parallel to the front of fire spread.

Walk, bending over to the ground, and do not try to overtake the fire.

If there is a body of water nearby, plunge into it or cover your head and upper body with wet clothing.

After leaving the danger zone, report the fire by phone 01.

№ 2. During outdoor recreation you were caught by a thunderstorm. Your actions.

Being on a hill (hill, hill, rock), go down.

Don't hide in rocks and rocks.

Try to sit on a dry place (deck, tree stump) and remove your feet from the ground.

Is it possible to hide from lightning under a tree? (Not.)

Can I hide in the car? (Yes, its metal body will protect you.)

Is it possible to run, move during a thunderstorm? (Not.)

No. 3. While walking down the street you were attacked by a dog. You are holding a hockey stick and a bag of skates. Your actions.

Turn sideways to the dog and give a few commands loudly
("Fu!", "You can't!", "Sit!", "Lie down!").

Without making any sudden movements, call the owner (if he is
near).

If there is no one nearby, slowly walk away from the dog, without speeding up
motion.

You cannot shout, wave your hands, throw sticks and stones, look the dog in the eyes.

If the dog is preparing to jump (squatting), you need to press your chin to your chest and put your elbows forward.

6. In case of a bite, you must contact the emergency room.
"Tricky" questions:

Is it possible to swing the club and drive the dog away? (Not.)

Can you run away from a dog? (Not.)

Is it possible to shout at a dog, driving it away with a club, throw
in her bag? (Not.)

Host 2. Thus, according to the results of the second round, the group of rescuers (name) is in the lead.

The third leader puts cards with tasks of the third round into the box.

Tour 3. First aid to victims

Host 3. We begin the last round. First aid to the injured.

Tasks for the third round

№ 1. Your friend, while swimming on the river, cut his leg with glass. There are no medicines at hand. Your actions.

Firmly press the vessel above the wound with your finger.

Apply a tourniquet 3-5 cm above the wound.

Apply pressure bandages to the bleeding site.

Bend your leg as much as possible.

Raise your leg above your chest.
"Tricky" questions:

Can a tourniquet be applied to bare skin? (Not.)

Which herb stops bleeding? (Plantain.)

And how do you know if blood is coming from a vein or an artery? (Blood from the vein
dark, and from the artery - scarlet.)

No. 2. You were lying on the couch watching TV. And suddenly your nose started bleeding. Your actions. Answers:

Sit with your torso tilted forward.

Put ice on your nose.

If it does not help, press the wings of the nose against the septum for 5-10 minutes.

4. If it does not help, put a piece of cotton wool dipped in a solution of salt (1 teaspoon in a glass of water).

5. If it does not help, consult a doctor.
"Tricky" questions:

1. Can you lie on your back so that the blood flows down your throat? (Not.)

Can hydrogen peroxide stop bleeding? (Yes.)

Is it possible to drink hot tea, coffee after nosebleeds? (Not.)

No. 3. In the garden, you were bitten by a wasp or a bee. Your actions.

Remove the sting of the bee from the skin by pressing it with your thumbnails and being careful not to touch the bag with the poison, so as not to squeeze it out even more.

Apply a cold compress to the wound.

Lie on your back so that his legs are higher than his head.

Make it easier for yourself to breathe (unfasten the belt, collar).

Cover yourself with a blanket.

Do not drink, do not eat.
"Tricky" questions:

Do you need to remove the wasp sting? (No, the wasp does not leave a sting.)

And if a bee has bitten on the tongue - is it funny? (No, this is very dangerous, you can suffocate.)

Maybe a loss of consciousness from a bee or wasp sting? (Yes, it could be fatal.)

No. 4. You decided to make a fire and cook fish soup, but the pot of boiling water turned over and your friend burned his hand. Your actions.

Place ice packs on the burn site or cold water for 5-10 minutes.

Smear the skin around the burn with alcohol, brilliant green or potassium permanganate.

Apply a sterile dressing.

You can give the victim pain medication.

5. Take the victim to the hospital.
"Tricky" questions:

Can damaged skin, clothing remnants, dirt be removed from the burn site? (Not.)

Can you smear the burn site with alcohol, brilliant green, iodine, fat, ointments, powders? (Not.)

Can a tight bandage be applied to the burn site? (Not.)

Host 3. In the third round, the team (name) won the victory.

Round 4. Traffic rules everyone is supposed to know.

Host 4. Roads and streets have their own strict laws, their own alphabet - these are traffic rules that must be followed by drivers and pedestrians. Not knowing the language of the roads can lead to trouble, to traffic accidents. And in order to prevent this from happening to you, we will remember the rules of the road.

Assignments for round 4.

The city in which we live with you

It can rightfully be compared to a primer.

The alphabet of streets, avenues, roads

The city gives us all the time: a lesson.

(S. Mikhalkov)

Here it is, the alphabet, - above your head:

naki are hung along the pavement.

Always remember the ABC of the roads

So that trouble does not happen to you.

(S. Mikhalkov)

competition. "Pedestrians"

Choose the correct answer, pick up the card with the answer number.

1. What part of the street is pedestrianized?

Mostovaya.

Sidewalk. (+)

Bicycle lane.

2. Where should pedestrians walk if there is no sidewalk?

On the right side of the curb.

On the right side of the road.

On the left side, towards the traffic. (+)

3. How should a pedestrian walk on the sidewalk?

Sticking to the left.

Adhering to right side. (+)

Sticking to the middle.

What should pedestrians do if there is a green signal when crossing an intersection?

the traffic light changed to yellow, and you did not have time to cross the road?

Cross the street quickly.

Conversation:

"How to behave"

for grade 7

Conducted by the teacher

Zakharova Natalia Vladimirovna

Rules of conduct for students at school:

I. Appearance of students

1. The student is obliged to come to school neatly (cleanly, neatly, not colorful) dressed, must have and change shoes at school. Outdoor and replacement shoes must be clean.

2. A student at school must be neatly and not defiantly combed (haircuts under "zero", under "punk", etc. are not allowed), have a clean handkerchief.

3. The student must monitor the cleanliness of the body, hands, teeth, nose, it is not allowed to pronounce abusive and obscene words and expressions.

4. When talking with a senior, the student should stand up. You can't keep your hands in your pockets. The transition to a free mode of communication is allowed with the permission of the teacher.

5. On special occasions, student clothing should be appropriate for the moment. Boys and young men must wear light shirts, dark suits, dark low shoes, a tie is required for boys over 14 years old. Girls and girls should be in dark tailored suits and light blouses, bright and defiant-looking jewelry and cosmetics are prohibited. Shoes - shoes with small heels, to match the suit.

6. At the lessons of physical education, choreography, technology, life safety clothing and shoes of students are regulated by special orders of the director.

For violation of paragraphs. 1-6 students can be sent home to put themselves in order; for violation of paragraph 7, students are called to the educational unit to make a decision.

II. Arrival of students to school.

1. At the entrance to the school, students greet the administrator on duty, teacher, comrades, wipe their feet, change shoes and hand over outerwear and changeable shoes to the wardrobe (students store shoes in special bags - sacks)

2. In the locker room, students behave quietly, undress quickly, without stopping, games and fussing in the locker room are prohibited, visiting the locker room during the school day is allowed only in the presence of a duty officer.

3. The appearance of the student is assessed upon leaving the locker room by the teacher on duty or the administrator and makes demands on the students in accordance with paragraph 1 (1-6) of these rules.

4. All students must be in classrooms no later than five minutes before the start of classes.

5. Late students are registered by the duty administrator or teacher, and receive a record of being late in the diary.

7. For violation of paragraphs. 1-2, 4 the class teacher applies the following measures to the student: notifying the parents; calling parents to school; referral to an interview with a psychologist or social educator schools;

III. Requirements for students in the lesson

1. Students should prepare everything necessary for the lesson before the bell.

2. Students with a bell should immediately take their places at the study tables.

3. Upon entering the teacher, the students stand up.

4. Before the start of the lesson, the attendants give the teacher a list of students who are absent from this lesson.

5. Late students are admitted to the lesson with the permission of the Deputy Director for teaching and educational work.

6. The teacher begins the lesson only if there is everything necessary for normal educational work - chalk, a clean board, a rag thoroughly washed and wrung out. The classroom must be cleaned and ventilated. The classroom attendants ensure this readiness for each lesson.

7. The student should not have anything superfluous on the study table. A list of what is needed in each lesson and at certain points in the lesson (for example, at independent work) is determined by the teacher.

8. When called to answer, the student should stand up and walk to the board. He must give the diary to the teacher for assessment.

9. In some cases, it is possible for a student to answer from a place, both standing and sitting. The order of the answer from the spot is determined by the teacher.

10. Students who wish to answer or ask the teacher must raise their hand. It is impossible to try to attract the teacher's attention in any other way.

11. When answering, the student stands at the blackboard facing the class or when answering from a place, facing the teacher. When answering, the student speaks loudly, clearly, slowly. Writes accurately and legibly on the board. When replying using a poster, map, diagram, etc. stands half-turned to the class, showing with a pointer what is needed, with the right or left hand, depending on the location of the visual material.

12. During the lesson, sitting at the study table, the student is obliged to monitor the posture, the position of the legs, and the tilt of the head. The student is obliged to follow the instructions of the teacher regarding correct posture.

13. Students at the end of the lesson get up and, as instructed by the teacher, leave the classroom calmly.

14. Hints and cheating in the classroom are strictly prohibited.

15.A grade book is kept in the classroom. The person responsible for the journal is obliged to present it to the teacher at the beginning of the lesson and pick it up at the end of the lesson and carry it between lessons. At the end of the training sessions, the person in charge submits the journal to the training unit. The responsible person is responsible for the safety of the journal during training sessions. All other students take the magazine, it is strictly forbidden to look at the grades.

16. Violation of these rules by students during the lesson is recorded by the teacher in the diaries of violators.

Objectives: to tell about the rules of behavior for children and adolescents in public places; to examine

A history of etiquette.

Conversation progress:

Part I

Rules of conduct for children and adolescents in public places.

1. Children and adolescents (up to 16 years old), while at school and on the street, in government agencies, in public transport, in an airplane, in shops, a cinema, a museum, an exhibition hall, a recreation park, and camps, must:

1.1. Strictly adhere to the rules of student conduct at school, traffic rules, rules internal regulations state institutions established for visitors to comply with the requirements of the administration, service personnel ..

1.2. Take good care of municipal and private property (do not stain the walls in entrances, elevators, stairwells, do not play games in the entrances, keep the streets, in the courtyard, staircase clean, show a kind attitude to animals).

1.3. Observe the rules of etiquette: behave in such a way as not to cause inconvenience and trouble to others, be polite with elders, attentive, prudent towards elderly people, young children, give them a place in public transport, if necessary, provide assistance.

2. Children and adolescents are prohibited:

2.1. Violate the peace and quiet of citizens from 23-00 to 7-00.

2.2. Deliberately inflict minor bodily harm or beatings.

2.3. Smoking in public places (schools, colleges, on their territory, in libraries, shops, in entrances residential buildings, in public transport)

2.4. Throw any objects from the balconies of multi-storey buildings, from the windows of houses and vehicles.

2.5. Use drugs without a doctor's prescription in public, office and utility rooms.

2.6. Dispose of garbage and other waste in unidentified places.

2.7. Breaking bushes and trees.

2.8. Sell alcoholic beverages and cigarettes to minors.

2.9. Minors (under 16 years old) are on the street without adult supervision in winter time no later than 21-00, at summer time- no later than 22-00 o'clock.

3. For an administrative violation committed by minors under 16 years of age, police officers draw up a report on parents (or persons substituting them) and sent to the Commission on Minors' Affairs to take administrative measures.

The idea of a cultured person is associated not only with his education, success in work, knowledge and appearance, but also with his behavior. The most educated person cannot be considered cultured if he does not know the rules of behavior in public places, does not know how to behave, if he does not respect himself or the people around him.

And how often we are jarred by petty inattention, rudeness and harshness of tone, sweeping and fluffy behavior, vulgar speech, inability to behave in a public place or at home at the table and many, many other manifestations of bad manners! We easily notice these shortcomings in others, but sometimes we do not know how to control ourselves, how important it is to be a truly educated, polite person.

To be polite is not only about knowing the rules of politeness, politeness is true cultured person, she expresses a good attitude and respect for people, the ability to reckon with their convenience and interests.

A polite person can be polite differently... You can not do things that are obviously unpleasant to others, and only: do not make noise, do not turn on the radio at full volume, do not talk with neighbors in the theater, do not push passers-by on the street or on the bus.

But it is even more important to actively show your desire to be polite - to give way to an elder, to pick up a dropped object, to tell a visitor how to walk through the city. See the old man off. Manners of behavior serve as a kind of external expression of politeness.

Fit, clarity in movements and gait, respect for other people's work and time, calmness in conversation, the ability to behave in a public place, at the table - all this indicates that a person has good demeanor. One should not be afraid of this word and think that "good manners" are prejudices that have gone into the realm of tradition.

When good manners express the inner culture of a person, then they have nothing to do with philistine pretense, which makes a person ashamed of any natural movement, or with ostentatious "aristocratic" gloss.

Many rules and manifestations of politeness originated in ancient times, passed down from generation to generation, sometimes lost their original meaning (for example, bow), but those of them that are marked by goodwill, rationality and convenience have become our property, our custom.

Our cultural behavior and attitude towards the rules of conduct is the same as for everything. cultural heritage of the past - to accept everything that is the true achievement of humanity, everything that serves progress, everything that improves the lives of people.

Being polite is not a big deal, but it does mean a lot in the way people communicate. It is not for nothing that the great Spanish writer Cervantes wrote: "Nothing costs us so cheaply and is appreciated by people so dearly as politeness."

Part II

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The term "etiquette" (from the French etiquette) means the form, demeanor, rules of courtesy and courtesy, adopted in a particular society. Etiquette is a combination of formal rules of conduct in predetermined situations with common sense, the rationality of the content embedded in them.

The word "etiquette" became common in the 17th century. Once at a court reception during the reign of the French king Louis XIV guests were given cards listing some acceptable rules of conduct. The word "etiquette" originated from their French name, and later it entered the languages of many countries. The rules of conduct have arisen a long time ago. As soon as people began to live together, the need for peaceful coexistence arose. Thus, in the "Odyssey" of Homer, in the Egyptian and Roman manuscripts, the rules of good form are already mentioned.

Relationships between sexes, superiors and subordinates, means of communication, and the reception of strangers were strictly regulated. Violation of these rules entailed an exclusion from social group... The ancient Greeks attached great importance to interstate relations, they actively developed diplomatic etiquette, creating a complex chain of necessary rituals there. Then court etiquette arose. Each ruling dynasty created a complex ceremony around itself with a certain degree of solemnity. On the basis of court etiquette, civil etiquette is formed only in a simpler form.

So, etiquette began to form in antiquity, but it was in the Middle Ages that it acquires the features that we know today. In the 11th century, a social system of chivalry arises, which subsequently spread throughout Europe. Chivalry had a huge impact on European etiquette, created countless new rituals and ceremonies around the feudal aristocracy. Country etiquette Western Europe developed under the great influence of local national customs and traditions. Thus, etiquette is a very large and important part of human culture, morality, and ethics. It has been developed over the centuries. There are practically no people who would not have contributed to the world's treasury of etiquette.

Many modern rules behaviors originally had a completely different meaning at their origin (as a rule, they originate from all kinds of rituals that permeated the life of an ancient person). Some etiquette norms of the past have changed so that it is difficult to find their historical roots. Others simply disappeared, as the phenomena that gave rise to them disappeared, but, one way or another, all the accepted rituals of behavior left an imprint on the development of etiquette. It is considered that modern etiquette inherits the best of the customs of the past, the traditions of the behavior of all peoples. But! it should be remembered that the requirements of etiquette are known relativity, they are not absolute: the conditions for their observance depend on the place, time, circumstances. It often happens that behavior that is not acceptable in one place and under some circumstances may be quite appropriate in other conditions.

Let's remember why a man should walk down the street to the left of a woman. Only two or three hundred years ago, men had a rule to carry a weapon on their left side - a saber, sword or dagger. So that this weapon does not touch the woman, if she is near, they stood to the left of her. Now such a hindrance during a promenade with a lady is possible only among the military. But the custom, nevertheless, was preserved for everyone.

There are customs whose origins are almost impossible to find out. They, as they say, pass from generation to generation. But if they have survived unchanged, then it is hardly worth challenging the popular wisdom, thanks to which they survived. The most honored guests are given seats in the middle of the table, next to the hosts or opposite them. The owners are always the first to enter a house or apartment, and then guests, if they come together.

So, etiquette is a very large and important part of human culture, morality, ethics. It has been developed over the centuries. There is practically no people who would not have made their contribution to the world treasury of etiquette, albeit in accordance with their ideas of goodness, justice, and humanity.

But even the strictest adherence to faceless patterns of behavior is not the root of truly correct behavior, the main thing is always a sincere, cordial and kind attitude towards people. After all, if all the little things of etiquette are not supported by inner good breeding and high morality, then it is unlikely that etiquette will be of much benefit to the people around us.

Rules of conduct in public places

Public places.Today, it is rare to see a picture when, standing near open door, two persuade each other: "Please, pass" - "No, please, you pass." Usually, when we are passed ahead, we pass without undue ceremony. And, in principle, this is correct. Traditionally, a man lets a woman forward; the younger gives way to the elder; subordinate to the superior. Of two people of equal age, occupying the same position, the one who is closer to the door goes first. If you brought a guest to the house. The hostess enters first, followed by the guest. If the host is a man, the guest enters first. But what if he doesn't know the way or it's dark outside the door? In this case, the owner enters first, saying: "Let me lead you" or: "Please follow me." The same should be done if the guest is a woman.

Stairs. Previously, it was customary for a man to walk in front of her when going upstairs with a woman. At present, a slightly different order has been determined: it is advisable and therefore justified for a man to strive to get ahead of a lady only in those cases when the stairs are dark, steep or wobbly. If the circumstances are different, the woman is in front. When descending, a man goes first, followed by a woman. If someone politely makes way for you as they walk by, either bow slightly or say, "Thank you." If you are on a narrow staircase and walking towards old man, boss or lady, you need to pause and take a small step to the side, letting the walker pass.

When a man and a woman, walking in different directions, collide on the stairs, the woman is not obliged to move away from the railing, even if this contradicts the rule of "right-hand traffic", the sides of the stairs with the railing are the privilege of the weaker sex, the elderly and children.

Elevators, escalators.An elevator is the same "public area" as a street or a staircase, you don't have to take off your headdress here. In the elevator, as in any other place, we greet those whom we always welcome. In a crowded public elevator, a man does not take off his hat, even if he is accompanying a woman. In an elevator of a residential building or a residential hotel, he will probably take off his hat when a woman enters, if his hands are not busy with packages.

In automatic elevators, a woman, if she is traveling without an accompanying person, presses the necessary button herself. A man in the elevator, if he is standing close to the panel, asks the rest (primarily women) what floor they need and presses the buttons. In full elevators, well-mannered people step aside or step out for a while in order to allow those standing behind to get out.

In the elevators of the office buildings, men stand to the side, letting the woman enter, unless they accompany them. The man accompanying the woman gives her the first access to the upward moving escalator. On occasion, he usually gets off the escalator first to help the woman if she stumbles.

Score. At the door of a store or institution, first let those who leave, and only then we will enter ourselves, thus, you will not become the reason for the formation of a "traffic jam" inside the premises. In large stores or other mass service establishments, a man may not take off his headdress. However, where the client is being served individually, it is useful to remember to take off your hat and say hello to the person who will be looking after you. When making a purchase in a store, it is useful to remember not to tire the seller with petty whims or prolonged indecision.

Approaching the checkout, you need to have the approximate amount of money ready for the purchase, and not look for it in your wallet or pockets at the last moment.

Cafes and restaurants.The man enters the restaurant first. There are several reasons for this. Firstly, in this way he protects his companion from unexpected collisions and warns her about the steps or the threshold, while not forgetting to hold the door and give the lady a hand. Secondly, on this basis, the head waiter has the right to draw a conclusion about who is the initiator of coming to the restaurant, that is, who will place an order and pay the bill.

In the wardrobe, the man undresses and then helps the lady to undress. Having chosen a table, the man, slightly pulling out the chair, helps the lady to sit down. If a lady comes without a companion, this gallant duty is assigned to the attendants. Never get into an argument with a waiter. The invitation to leave the restaurant must come from the initiator of the meeting. Etiquette does not allow the waiter to bring you an invoice until you ask him to do so. But in no case demand the bill at the moment when your guests or the lady are still eating - this is impolite towards them. Money, credit or bonus cards must be placed in a folder or on a tray along with the bill and left at the edge of the table. Tipping is a tradition in restaurants almost all over the world. The minimum tip is 10% of the bill.

Transport ... Before entering the vehicle, give the opportunity to get out of it. While doing this, stand so as not to interfere with exiting passengers. When traveling in public transport with a lady, a man enters after her, but leaves first and gives his companion his hand. Usually everyone pays for the fare himself, but a man, on his own initiative, can pay for the fare of his good friend. Decency obliges him to give way to a tired mother with a small or baby, a pregnant woman, an old or disabled person, a woman with a heavy bag or an acquaintance. In relation to young, healthy strangers, such a gesture is voluntary politeness. A woman who has been given a place should immediately be grateful for this. A young girl can make way for an elderly relative. You should not talk loudly in transport, laugh, turn on music. It is completely unacceptable to be in transport with ice cream or an open bottle. You cannot stand in the doorway, interfering with the entry and exit of other passengers. If you are unable to pass the fare yourself or validate the ticket, ask others to do so. It is indecent to look over your shoulder at a book, newspaper or magazine read by another passenger. It is indecent to gaze intently at your fellow travelers. In transport, you need to try not to step on people’s feet, do not lean on the person standing next to them, do not push him in the back. If one of the passengers accidentally touches another, you must apologize. When leaving the transport, the man must get out first, and then help his companion.

Conversation

For boys or girls over 18 years of age should be referred to as "you". It is also important to control your voice, because it may well betray your state of health, mood, thoughts that you would like to hide. Do not speak too loudly, or you may embarrass yourself.

Good manners require us to avoid conversations that are unpleasant or disheartening to the other person. To become a spoken ass, first of all, you need to learn a few rules: in a conversation you need to avoid the loud "I"; take into account the interests of others and hide their own identity. It is very indecent to speak with someone in a language unfamiliar to the rest of society. You should show courtesy and delicacy in the event that a third opponent intervenes in your conversation, and the topic of the conversation is purely intimate.

It is also important to control your voice (you can resort to the help of a specialist), because it may well give out your state of health, mood, thoughts that you would like to hide. In a state of stress, it is even harder to speak, rapid intermittent breathing, tremors in the voice interfere, so it is also important to control your breathing.

Think, are you fast speaking? If so, how clear? Is it clear? Okay, do you know how to properly pause a conversation? Why pauses? It's very simple - pauses are a sign of good manners. The pauses should be long enough so that your interlocutors can reflect on what has been said. If your speech is slow and you do not pause in conversation, you run the risk of exhausting your interlocutor. Each word in a conversation should be clear and understandable to the interlocutor.

In society, they talk about everything, but do not delve into questions, do not analyze any subject comprehensively, but reason briefly, but not superficially. You should not show the appearance that the conversation is boring or tires you, or that you would like to talk with others, you do not need to look in the other direction during a conversation or look at the clock, your hands should be in a calm state, it is not permissible to twirl objects.

There is nothing better for society than a good topic of conversation. Choose topics for conversation that are closer and more interesting to your interlocutor. If you are not familiar with society, then you should not start a conversation with strangers about those present, but it is better to observe and navigate their relationships with each other.

The range of problems discussed may be wide, but it is still better to conduct a conversation on topics where you are "like a fish in water" - but this does not mean that you should tire the interlocutors with complaints about your health. In order for the conversation to turn out really interesting, meaningful and attract attention, you need to call on all your ingenuity and sense of humor to help.

Do not exaggerate or extol your activities, your research, your possessions, do not brag about your circle of acquaintances - such phrases give the narrator the right to receive a certificate of meagerness.

Remember that in any society, your behavior should be natural. Pretense is the enemy of all engaging conversation. So that communicating with strangers, to feel light and at ease, in order to start a conversation without effort and freely conduct it (and not just assent), some preparation is necessary.

What is there to talk about with an unfamiliar person when mutual silence becomes uncomfortable? That's right - about the weather! This is a topic that interests everyone to one degree or another, it is safe and conflict-free. Uninteresting? It's right. But it is not at all necessary to immediately start talking about something serious. This may sound pretentious.

In a conversation, it is better not to touch upon personal problems, not to persuade a partner to this, not to confidentially talk about yourself. When the topic of the weather has been exhausted, you can talk, for example, about television, newspaper news, sports. In the end, there is bound to be a question that can captivate both interlocutors. You should be careful when using different variations of words from youth slang.

Learn to listen! Do you know how? But as? Be silent, looking at the interlocutor with "empty eyes", which reflect your own concerns. It's not that at all! You should look at the interlocutor with interest and from time to time insert any comments that will be evidence that you understand what is at stake. While someone is talking to you, it is ugly to rummage in a bag, rummage through your own pockets, look at the TV, catch your heavenly beauty in the mirror opposite. If you have already heard the story once, it is better to immediately notice: “I know, I heard it” than to interrupt in mid-sentence impatiently. A polite person rarely interrupts someone else's story, even if he has heard it a hundred times.

There is no place in a friendly discussion, for example, such expressions: "Not true!", "What ?!", "You won't understand!" After all, you can say the same thing in a different way: "But it seems to me that ...", "Sorry, I did not hear ...",

“I don’t quite understand you…” A well-mannered person rarely talks in society about his personal affairs, relationships at work, his children, ailments, worries, habits, tastes. Without special need, he will not share what he did in the morning.

Gossip isn't the best way to make a positive impression. If someone imposes on you such a topic, it is better to answer: "I suppose that this does not concern us." Often the interlocutors are engaged in a discussion appearance acquaintances. Such conversations are also not adorable. Ignore the gossip about you. Gossip, as soon as it is neglected,

Dies a natural death. Explanations and refutations "just in case" never justify themselves. After all, it often happens that you prove your innocence to a person who is not yet aware of a sensitive topic. However, what you said unwittingly alarms, and you may get the impression that something is hidden behind the rumor.

If the community has fewer than seven people, general conversation should be encouraged rather than isolated conversations. Today it is difficult to separate the topics of conversation into "male" and "female". But sometimes ladies want to talk about fashion and men want to talk about a new car brand. Then it's worth splitting up. It is strongly discouraged to talk about dreams and premonitions, indulge in long-lasting memories of the past, or utter long monologues in society.

Performing with the same repertoire of anecdotes and "funny incidents" tires even the most staunch listeners. Anecdotes should not be strewn about without letting the listeners come to their senses. It is best to remember the anecdote to the point. It always gets in the way of fully appreciating a witty anecdote, an explosion of inappropriate fun in the mouth of the narrator himself. How to respond to an inappropriate anecdote or tactlessness? Nothing in such cases works better than a minute of general silence that reigns after an unsuccessful statement. Then someone should start a conversation on a different topic. If the “wit” endlessly tells or repeats anecdotes that confuse the audience, the owner should stop him: “You seem to be out of luck today.”

It is not recommended to abuse barbs in society. An unlucky smart guy who tries to shine with their help to the detriment of the "victims" chosen for this purpose usually makes a depressing impression. I emphasize that the barbs often look naive and rather fix the general attention on the weaknesses of the "wit" itself.

Don't interrupt when someone is speaking, especially if they are an older person. Do not correct someone else's mispronounced foreign word. You should not suggest words to the narrator, finish the phrase for him, and, moreover, correct stylistic mistakes aloud.

In general, adults, try not to make any comments. Young people can sometimes afford it among themselves, but only in a friendly manner.

Age is a dangerous topic! In an older society, when talking about someone else, do not say "He is already old" or "Well, at this age." In general, one should not be interested in age. If a woman is told: "You are no longer young" (sometimes it happens), she can rightly answer: "But she is well brought up." Public self-flagellation, constant complaints about failures and hard life, physical disabilities will not decorate you. Rarely attracts sympathy and a person who tells in society about his successes, high qualities, talents.

In society, one should not ask a partner about the details of his illness if he caught a glimpse that he was not feeling well or that he was in the hospital. You can politely insert: "Yes, this is unpleasant." If the partner wants, he will tell himself what worries him. If your friend says: "The wife is sick," do not ask: "What's wrong with her?" Better to ask, "Anything serious?"

Do not ask who earns how much. Don't ask professional advice from a doctor or lawyer who was accidentally met on a visit, on the street or in transport. You will be very tactless by wishing a young lady over 25 to get married. It is ugly to ask a friend why she didn’t get married, to be surprised at this, generally to make any hints on this topic.

In a company, a man is obliged to say courtesies to women, but at the same time he must be correct and unobtrusive. It is better to stop the stream of awkward pleasantries as soon as possible and quietly. “Sorry, I'm not inclined to jokes”, “You repeat yourself”, “Isn't it better to watch the program” - something like this is the best answer in such cases. You need to speak calmly, quietly, but quite categorically, without getting into the discussion. A compliment should be answered with a short “thank you”.

If someone cites being busy, leaves early, or refuses to meet, don't ask for a detailed explanation. If you are given a reason, do not begin to dissuade that it is not so important, do not give advice on how to overcome it, and even more so do not show with all your appearance that you do not accept the weight of the named argument.

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Message and greeting

According to etiquette, you need to greet a person with the words: "Hello!" " Good morning! " "Good day!" "Good evening!" When greeting, you should not lower your eyes; you need to meet the gaze of the person you are greeting. But the inseparable gaze of someone else is felt by a person even if he sits sideways or with his back to you. Therefore, you should not "hypnotize" anyone. It is considered indecent to stare at a person when he is eating, to gaze at unfamiliar women, look at the person who is introduced to you. Intonation is very important. A rude or dry greeting can offend the person you are greeting. Greet people in a warm and friendly manner. And a smile "added" to the greeting will improve the overall mood. And don't forget about a bow, a nod of the head, a handshake, a hug, a kiss of the hand - choose any according to the circumstances. Only the closest friends are addressed to "you".

All the rest (older people, unfamiliar peers) are addressed as “you”. It is not customary to say hello through the threshold, across the table, through any partition. A handshake is a traditional, symbolic gesture of greeting. Give your hand in a free, confident gesture. The squeeze should be short.

But you should also not shake your partner's hand with all your might, shaking it in the air several times. If you noticed a friend in the distance and if you noticed you too, then you need to greet the acquaintance with a nod of your head, a wave of your hand, a bow, a smile. You should not shout at the top of your voice! If you see a friend who is approaching you, you do not need to shout "hello!" from afar.

Wait until the distance between you is reduced to a few steps. Be sure to greet those people with whom you often meet, even if you are not familiar with them, for example, with the seller of the nearest store, with the postman, neighbors from the entrance.

Telephone

Advantages mobile phone it is difficult to overestimate. And yet, in certain situations, he is able to create inconvenience, and even cause annoyance. With a phone in your pocket, you can be in a public place, in a restaurant, in a hairdresser; but in a cinema, in a theater, during a concert, it will be an undoubted hindrance - in such places you need to turn it off completely or turn on vibration instead of a sound signal.

Prepared and conducted

Classroom teacher

Grade 7

Zakharova N.V.

2011-2012 academic year.

Questionnaire for children

"Do you consider yourself a cultured person?"

Mark the actions in this list with a "+" that you think are decent, and with a "-" mark the actions that you consider indecent:

shout loudly;

fight;

be responsive to other people;

interrupt another person in a conversation;