Why wake for 9 and 40 days. Memorial words

16.10.2019

In countries where historically there are long and strong Christian traditions, everyone knows that after human death of particular importance are the third day after the sad event, the ninth day and the fortieth day. Almost everyone knows, but many cannot say exactly why these dates - 3 days, 9 days and 40 days - are so important. What happens, according to traditional ideas, with the soul of a person until the ninth day after his departure from earthly life?

Soul Path

Christian ideas about the posthumous path of the human soul may differ depending on one or another denomination. And if in the Orthodox and Catholic picture afterlife and there are still few differences in the fate of the soul in it, then in various Protestant movements the range of opinions is very large - from almost complete identity with Catholicism to leaving far from tradition, up to the complete denial of the existence of hell as a place of eternal torment for the souls of sinners. Therefore, the Orthodox version of what happens to the soul in the first nine days after the beginning of a different, afterlife is more interesting.

The patristic tradition (that is, the recognized body of works of the Fathers of the Church) says that after the death of a person for almost three days his soul has almost complete freedom. She not only has all the “baggage” from earthly life, that is, hopes, affections, fullness of memory, fears, shame, the desire to complete some unfinished business, and so on, but she is also able to be anywhere. It is generally accepted that during these three days the soul is either near the body, or, if a person died away from home and family, next to his loved ones, or in those places that for some reason were especially expensive or remarkable for this person. On the third tribute, the soul loses the complete freedom of its behavior and is taken by angels to Heaven to worship the Lord there. That is why on the third day, according to tradition, it is necessary to hold a memorial service and thus finally say goodbye to the soul of the deceased.

After worshiping God, the soul goes on a kind of “tour” around paradise: the Kingdom of Heaven is shown to it, it gets an idea of what paradise is, sees that unity of righteous souls with the Lord, which is the goal of human existence, meets with the souls of saints, and the like. This “sightseeing” journey of the soul through paradise lasts six days. And here, according to the Fathers of the Church, the first torments of the soul begin: seeing the heavenly pleasure of the saints, she understands that, due to her sins, she is not worthy to share their fate and is tormented by doubts and fear that she will not go to heaven. On the ninth day, the angels again carry the soul to God so that it can glorify His Love for the saints, which she had just been able to personally observe.

What is important these days for the living

However, according to the Orthodox worldview, nine days after death should not be taken as an exclusively otherworldly matter, which does not seem to concern the surviving relatives of the deceased. On the contrary, forty days after the death of a person are for his relatives and friends the time of the greatest convergence of the earthly world and the Kingdom of Heaven. Because it is during this period that the living can and must make every effort to contribute to the best possible fate of the soul of the deceased, that is, its salvation. To do this, you need to constantly pray, hoping for God's mercy and forgiveness of the soul of its sins. This is important from the point of view of determining the fate of the human soul, that is, where it will await the Last Judgment, in heaven or hell. At the Last Judgment, the fate of each soul will be finally decided, so that those of them who were placed in hell have the hope that prayers for her will be heard, she will be forgiven (if they pray for a person, even though he committed many sins, which means that there was something good in him) and will be awarded a place in paradise.

Ninth day after human death is in Orthodoxy, no matter how strange it may sound, almost festive. People believe that for the last six days the soul of the deceased has been in paradise, albeit as a guest, and now it can adequately praise the Creator. Moreover, it is believed that if a person led a righteous life and good deeds, love for his neighbor and repentance for his own sins won the favor of the Lord, then his posthumous fate can be decided after nine days. Therefore, those close to a person should, firstly, pray especially hard for his soul on this day, and secondly, hold a memorial meal. commemoration on the ninth day, from the point of view of tradition, they should be “uninvited” - that is, they do not need to specially invite anyone. Those who wish the soul of the deceased all the best must themselves remember this responsible day and come without reminders.

However, in reality, wakes are almost always invited in a special way, and if more people are expected than the dwelling can accommodate, then they are held in restaurants or similar establishments. commemoration on the ninth day, this is a calm remembrance of the deceased, which should not turn into either an ordinary party or mourning gatherings. It is noteworthy that the Christian concept of the special significance of three, nine and forty days after the death of a person has been adopted by modern occult teachings. But they gave these dates a different meaning: according to one version, the ninth day is indicated by the fact that during this period the body supposedly decomposes; according to another, at this turn, one of the bodies dies, after the physical, mental and astral, which can appear as a ghost. 40 days after death: the last frontier

AT Orthodox tradition the third, ninth and fortieth days after the death of a person have a certain meaning for his soul. But it is the fortieth day that is of particular importance: for believers, this is the boundary that finally separates earthly life from eternal life. So 40 days after death, from a religious point of view, the date is even more tragic than the very fact of physical death.

Fight for the soul between hell and heaven

According to Orthodox ideas, which originate from the holy cases described in the Lives, from the theological works of the Church Fathers and from canonical services, the human soul from the ninth to the fortieth day passes through a series of obstacles called air ordeals. From the moment of death until the third day, a person's soul resides on earth and can be near their loved ones or travel anywhere. From the third to the ninth days, she stays in paradise, where she is given the opportunity to appreciate the blessings that the Lord, as a reward for a righteous or holy life, gives to souls in the Kingdom of Heaven.

The ordeals, however, begin from the ninth day and represent such obstacles in which nothing depends on the human soul itself. A person changes the ratio of his good and evil thoughts, words and deeds only in earthly life, after death he is no longer able to add or subtract anything. Ordeals are, in fact, "judicial competitions" between representatives of hell (demons) and paradise (angels), which have an analogy in the debate between the prosecutor and the lawyer. There are twenty ordeals in total, and they represent certain sinful passions to which all people are subject. During each ordeal, demons present a list of a person’s sins associated with this passion, and angels announce a list of his good deeds. It is generally accepted that if the list of sins for each ordeal turns out to be more solid than the list of good deeds, then the soul of a person goes to hell if, by God's mercy, good deeds do not multiply. If there are more good deeds, the soul moves on to the next ordeal, as in the case if there are equal numbers of sins and good deeds.

The final decision of the fate

The doctrine of aerial ordeals is not canonical, that is, it is not included in the main dogma of Orthodoxy. However, the authority of patristic literature has led to the fact that for many centuries such ideas about the posthumous path of the soul are actually the only ones within this religious denomination. The period from the ninth to fortieth day after death a person is considered the most important, and the fortieth day itself is perhaps the most tragic date, even compared to death itself. The fact is that, according to Orthodox ideas, on the fortieth day, after going through the ordeals and seeing all the horrors and torments that await sinners in hell, the human soul appears for the third time directly before God (for the first time - on the third day, the second time - on the ninth day). And it is at this moment that the fate of the soul is decided - where to stay until the Last Judgment, in hell or in the Kingdom of Heaven.

It is believed that by that time the soul had already passed all possible tests, which were to determine whether a person could earn salvation with his earthly life. The soul has already seen paradise and could feel how worthy or unworthy it is to share the fate of the righteous and saints. She has already gone through ordeals and imagines how numerous and serious her sins are. By this time, she should completely repent and trust only in God's mercy. That is why the fortieth day after death is perceived by the Church and relatives of the deceased as a key milestone, after which the soul goes either to heaven or hell. It is necessary to pray diligently for the soul of the deceased, based on at least three motives. Firstly, prayer can influence the Lord's decision regarding the fate of the soul: attention is drawn both to the very fact of indifference of those close to a person, and to the possible intercession before God of the saints whom they pray. Secondly, if the soul is nevertheless sent to hell, this does not yet mean final death for it: the fate of all people will be finally decided during the Last Judgment, which means that there is still an opportunity to change the decision by prayers. Thirdly, if the soul of a person has found the Kingdom of Heaven, it is necessary to adequately thank God for the mercy He has shown.

The death of a person is accompanied by certain traditions. People who have lost a loved one or an acquaintance often face the following dates after the funeral: 3 days, 9 days, 40 days. There is a desire to gather in a close circle and. But how to count 9 days after death?

Detailed timing

The day of death is considered the first day. To calculate 9 days, you need to add the number 8. For example, the 5th of the month. The 9th day falls on the 13th. Before midnight is the first day, even if death occurs a few minutes before 24 hours. special commemoration happens on the 9th day, because the soul is in paradise.

Carefully, without breaking the silence, acquaintances meet at the same table and talk about a person who is in another world. Lay people, attending memorial dinners, often forget about the mission entrusted to them, and instead of intense prayer, they begin to talk about their own affairs.

From the 3rd to the 9th day, the soul is assigned a place in paradise. There she rests and prepares for serious trials that come after 9 days. You can help her with frank prayer and conversation about the good deeds of a deceased person. Do not remember misconduct that causes resentment or bitterness.

Sincere prayer is able to support both the soul of the deceased and the one who prays. Sacred words help reduce the pain of loss, soothe excitement and anxiety. Saying phrases, the layman gradually begins to think without sorrow. You should not give yourself up to fuss on this day, spend time in humility.

The person dies and the body is buried. Relatives are responsible for the observance of rites of remembrance. In ancient times, meals were held, to which the homeless and the poor were invited. Now such traditions are not performed, and those who were familiar with the deceased sit down at the table.

Alms are distributed in the cemetery or in the church. Particularly needy parishioners are happy to receive alms. They With open heart and with pure thoughts they will pray for the repose of the soul, calling the name and reading the right prayers. By giving away the bundle, you are simultaneously helping those who ask for help and remembering a loved one.

According to Scripture, the soul of a dead person is busy finding a way. She does not know what is prepared for her and what trials for sins she will have to endure. But there is no other way out, and everything that has already been done cannot be corrected. Relatives can help the soul with prayers and pleasant memories. It is not in vain that they say: “They say either well or nothing about the dead.”

On the ninth day, the deceased forgets about grief and pain. He begins to sincerely repent for his sins and a great support for him is the prayer of his relatives. The soul, which is in Paradise, understands that the time is coming to answer for the misdeeds committed, but the perfect cannot be erased from the former life.

A special prayer joins the soul to the number of angels. The closest people who have departed to another world become guardian angels, protecting the living for a long time. Often dead mother protects the child, appearing to him in a dream. Prompting, it often prevents an accident.

Important points for the 9th day

Relatives and friends are encouraged to visit the church. A small prayer and a candle for the repose are the main details of this day.
Visiting the grave of the deceased is not just a tribute to tradition. At the cemetery, a person begins to correlate his actions and evaluate his life. With memories comes awareness and understanding.
Caramel and cookies are placed on the grave, millet is scattered and eggs are crumbled.
On the 9th day, mirrors are opened, with the exception of the room of the deceased.
Alms and small offerings of cookies and sweets are distributed.

In the church, a prayer service is ordered for the deceased. near the icon it is not always possible to read, because not all churches hold daily services. Home reading of the sacred word also has power. The main thing is that the spoken word be sincere and open. If you are in a hurry and the fussiness is associated with a memorial dinner, postpone the prayer until the evening when you can retire.

Prayer is read not only by relatives. The more appeals, the more likely the positive decision of the heavenly court. Relatives and acquaintances, uniting, beg for indulgence to the soul. Therefore, it is important not only how to count 9 days after death, but also the behavior of relatives on this day.

In Orthodoxy, the third, ninth, fortieth day after death, as well as the anniversary are considered sacred days. Each of these days is given special importance, and in order to alleviate the afterlife of a person, it is customary to hold a commemoration on these dates.

To correctly calculate the day of the commemoration, you need to take the day of death for the first day, and add the desired figure to it. Do not do arithmetic addition, because a simple addition will give the wrong number. For example: a person who died on January 1 should not be commemorated on January 10 (1 + 9), but on January 9.

Some may confuse the traditional and church days, which begin after the evening service, and then those who died in the morning and late in the evening of the same day may turn out to be dead, as it were, in different days. It is generally accepted tradition to rely on an astronomical day, when it does not matter whether death occurs during the day or before midnight.

If you yourself find it difficult to accurately calculate the dates on which the commemoration falls, you will definitely come to the rescue. For church-going people, it would be natural to address this question to their father.

When are funerals held

On the day of the funeral, and in Orthodoxy it should coincide with the third day after death, the first commemoration is held, they are also considered the most massive. Do not confuse a memorial meal with simple friendly or family gatherings, although the composition of the participants will be approximately the same. The participants in the funeral, those who knew the deceased closely, after the burial are invited to participate in the funeral feast.

Many centuries ago, it was customary to gather at the table not relatives, but beggars, because they themselves could not take care of their daily bread. The Church teaches that commemoration should be in the circle of religious people, it is from a common prayer that there will be benefit for the soul of the deceased.

The third day after death is considered the last when the soul of the deceased is in his home, next to his relatives. It is believed that after this her wanderings begin, first through heavenly places, until the ninth day, and until the fortieth - through hell.

A person during his life can do righteous deeds, and, of course, sin. And he will no longer be able to atone for sins after death, only relatives can help him in this world. For this, it is useful to read prayers in order to indicate the right path to the soul of the deceased, which at first without a body is in turmoil. It is customary to distribute the things of the deceased to the needy, give alms, and also arrange memorial dinners.

The commemoration of the third day is usually held in a cafe or restaurant, but their design should be as concise as possible. There should be no flashy colors in the decoration of the room, fancy serving and overly delicious dishes. Recommended for a feast are traditional Russian easy-to-cook dishes: cabbage soup, noodles, pies and kissel. Mandatory memorial dishes are pancakes with honey and kutya (sweet porridge), which have auspicious symbolism. It is not customary to sit up during the funeral dinner, as well as drink alcohol or sing songs, except for church ones appropriate for the occasion.

What to say at the wake

One person assumes the duties of a manager, he must give everyone who comes the opportunity to speak. It is customary to stand up, address those present, briefly name who you were with the deceased. Then briefly, in a few words, indicate its strongest influence on you, illustrating with a vivid example.

It is worth being correct in assessing the character or actions of the deceased, you need to talk about him only in a positive way. not considered positive traits the stinginess or naivety of the deceased can be diplomatically called financial literacy and an open heart. After a speech about what should be learned from the deceased, it should be said that he will always live in our hearts. If the mourning speech is interrupted by tears, the steward must quickly stop them with words of consolation.

It is customary to pray at the beginning of the meal and at the change of dishes. In general, from the church point of view, the best commemoration is considered to be an appeal to God. Immediately after the death of the house, one should read the Follow-up, the psalter, and order funeral services in the church. On the third day, a funeral service takes place, and then it is customary to order Sorokoust so that prayers are read for the soul of the deceased every day.

On the ninth day, it is customary to bake funeral pies and go to church and the cemetery with relatives. It is recommended to light a candle for the repose, pray and give alms. It is believed that on this day the soul ends its journey in heaven and descends into Hell.

wake days

On the fortieth day, relatives, friends, colleagues, neighbors of the deceased gather at the memorial table. They also go to church on this day. It is believed that on the fortieth the fate of the deceased is determined, and his soul goes either to Paradise or to Hell to await the Last Judgment.

The Christian Church has traditionally accepted the commemoration of the dead on the third, ninth, fortieth day and anniversary. She also gave an interpretation of these terms in Christian categories and images.

According to the teachings of the church, for two days the soul is somewhere near the body she loves, near her home, wandering, accompanied by angels, through earthly places dear to her. And on the third day, she must worship the Lord. In the next six days - up to nine days - the soul is shown heavenly cloisters. And in the next thirty - different branches of the underworld. After that, the Lord places her in heaven or hell.

For the first two days, the soul of the deceased is still on earth, passing along with the Angel accompanying her to those places that attract her with memories of earthly joys and sorrows, evil and good deeds. Soul, body loving, sometimes wanders around the house in which the body is laid, and thus spends two days like a bird looking for its nests.

From the 39th to the 40th day, the soul comes to look at loved ones for the last time. At this time, the phantom, giving the last energy to the soul, ceases to exist, merging with it. During spiritualism, people communicate not with the soul and not with a double, but with an egregore, which was informationally laid down by the deceased person. But at this moment people feed the double, whether in the Isosphere or already at the born human he is located. If at the time of death the energy-informational component is not completely separated, then the soul freezes and can wander around relatives and friends for up to 13 days. Moreover, the soul leaves for the Noosphere only at night.

Within forty days, the soul goes to the filters, where the energy-information blocks of accumulation are pressed. When she goes depends on her readiness. This is hindered by low energy level and loss of information baggage.

Please tell me what happens to the soul of the deceased on the 3rd, 9th and 40th day? What should relatives do so that the soul of the deceased finds peace and finds its place in the Kingdom of Heaven. Thank you very much for your reply.

Brief summary of the Orthodox teaching on the posthumous fate of the soul

In the first nine chapters of this book, we have tried to outline some of the main aspects of the Orthodox Christian view of life after death, contrasting them with the widely accepted modern look, as well as views that appeared in the West, which in some respects departed from the ancient Christian teaching. In the West, the true Christian teaching about angels, the airy realm of fallen spirits, about the nature of people's communication with spirits, about heaven and hell, has been lost or distorted, as a result of which the "post-mortem" experiences that are currently taking place are completely misinterpreted. The only satisfactory answer to this false interpretation is Orthodox Christian teaching.

9 days after death

For the Orthodox, the remembrance of the dead occurs on the ninth and fortieth days after death. Why?

In these very first 9 days after death, the deceased can observe the surrounding people, see and hear them. Thus, the soul says goodbye forever to life in this world, to life on earth, gradually losing these opportunities and thereby moving away from the world of the living. Therefore, it is no coincidence that a memorial service is ordered for the 3rd, 9th and 40th days. These days are special milestones that every soul goes through when leaving our world.

You can find out in detail where the soul of a person is up to 40 days by carefully studying Orthodox texts. You can also understand from them why it is necessary to commemorate the deceased on the 3rd, 9th, and also 40th day.

In Orthodoxy, it is believed that the soul of a deceased person, having separated from the physical shell, falls on the court, administered by God. It was then that her future fate was determined. However, judgment does not take place immediately after death. Within 40 prescribed days, the soul must prepare for this event.

So, from the 1st to the 3rd day after death, the soul resides in the place where the person died. Starting from the 3rd day, the soul examines the paradise. From the 9th day to the 40th, she watches the torment of sinners in hellfire.

The soul, which has just left the body, during the first 3 days experiences grief over its earthly life. Therefore, until the 3rd day, she is most often in the house where her body was left or near this place.

Please explain what the 3rd, 9th and 40th days after the death of a person mean. What is going through and where is the soul of the deceased these days?

Serge St. Petersburg Oracle (87547) 7 years ago It is believed that up to 9 days the soul is in the place where the person lived, up to 40 days the period of adoption is shown to her by all the worlds, then she returns to say goodbye and finally leaves

Priest Afanasy Gumerov, a resident of the Sretensky Monastery, answers:

Our earthly existence is a preparation for the future life: “it is appointed for men to die once, and then judgment” (Heb. 9:27). Post-mortem experiences testify that, freed from bodily stoutness, the soul becomes more active. The trials that she undergoes immediately after separation from the body are of a spiritual and moral nature. All that she did good and bad remains. Therefore, for the soul, from the very beginning of the afterlife (even before the Judgment), joys or sufferings begin, depending on how it lived on earth.

Special place in Orthodox rites occupies the remembrance of the dead. The most important are from the 1st to the 40th day, 9 days after death have their own meaning. What do relatives need to do, what does this date mean?

Worthy farewell

The departure of a loved one is always a shock, even if he was in years, was ill for a long time and was preparing for the transition to another world. Faced with the fact that only a motionless shell remains of a loved one, many people think that they themselves are mortal. It seems frightening to exist beyond. After all, on this side we can only guess about what awaits us there. But thanks to the teachings of the Church, we are still in in general terms know what happens on the 9th day after death. On this day, air ordeals begin.

What it is? It is believed that the soul passes all the sins committed during life. It is especially important in the period from 9 to 40 days after death to support a loved one with intensified prayer.

Find out why they are buried on the 3rd day after death and what traditions and superstitions are associated with this date. The third day is one of the memorial days, like the ninth, fortieth, year and sometimes six months.

Why they bury on the 3rd day after death - funeral traditions

Because of spiritual ratio between Christ and the human soul, the third day is considered suitable for burial. It is on the third day after death that all connections between the soul and the body are finally cut off. The intangible component of a person goes to the Kingdom of Heaven, accompanied by a guardian angel. The day before and on the day of death, the soul is still in the world of the living. She should not see her funeral - this is a lot of stress for a recently deceased person.

In addition, the third day after death is identified with the Trinity. The third day is always a memorial day. Wake, as a rule, is held after the burial of the human body. Tretiny thus combined with the day of the funeral.

Hello Father Sergius!!

Recently my young man died, it happened on April 23, 2011, the day before Easter. It was an accident, he burned down. Many say that if they die on Easter, they immediately go to Paradise, and if they burn, they also immediately go to Paradise. Is it true? And before the 9th day, I had a dream, how I got to Paradise, found him and he said that everything was fine with him, that he had found friends, and that we would not worry and that he was waiting for us. What does this mean? Or is it just self-indulgence?

Sincerely, Victoria

Yes, please accept our condolences, Victoria.
For believers, dying on Easter has always been considered a good sign, if you like, even a reward from the Lord, which not all the righteous could be honored with. Even the funeral service for Easter is joyful and solemn.
But we must understand that God's attitude towards each person is personal and individual. The Lord does not care where and when a person was born or died.

Many who have lost loved ones know the feelings that loss evokes. Emptiness, longing and wild pain in the soul. Grieving for the departed loved ones is one of the most painful psychological conditions.

However, there is a lot of information that the living receive messages from the subtle world.

We will not take into account researchers who are purposefully studying the possibilities of two-way communication with the other world. There are quite a few people who claim that they make no effort to see the souls of the departed. Visions occur, in their opinion, involuntarily.

From this article you will learn how the souls of the dead communicate with the living.

stuck between worlds

People are often frightened when footsteps are clearly heard in their houses where no one walks. Water taps and light switches turn on by themselves, things can fall off the shelves with enviable regularity. In other words, poltergeist activity is observed. But what is really happening?

Wake for 9 days after death, what is prepared and how to conduct

9 days after death

Wake for 9 days after death, what is prepared and how to conduct? For the Orthodox, the remembrance of the dead occurs on the ninth and fortieth days after death. Why?

The priests answer this question in detail. According to church canons, the time from the moment of repose directly to the ninth is called the design of the "body of eternity." During this period, the deceased is taken to the "special places" of paradise. And in the world of the living, relatives and clergy conduct various funeral rites.

What happens in the first 9 days after death?

How do you deal with grief at the death of a loved one?

- The grief of separation from the deceased can only be quenched by prayer for him. Christians believe that life does not end with death, that the death of the body is not the death of the soul, that the soul is immortal. Therefore, it is necessary to see off the soul of the deceased in quiet prayer.

“Do not betray your heart to sorrow; move it away from you, remembering the end. Do not forget about this, for there is no return; and you will not do him any good, but you will harm yourself. With the repose of the deceased, calm the memory of him, and you will take comfort in him after the departure of his soul ”(Sir.38:20, 21, 23).

Is it necessary to close the mirror if one of the relatives has died?

– The custom of hanging mirrors in the house where the death occurred partly comes from the belief that anyone who sees his reflection in the mirror of this house will also die soon. There are many “mirror” superstitions, some of them are related to divination on mirrors. And where there is magic and sorcery, fear and superstition inevitably appear.

The first nine days are very important for both the soul of the deceased and the living. We will tell you what path the soul of a person goes through, what she experiences and whether relatives of the deceased can alleviate her plight.

When a person dies, his soul overcomes peculiar boundaries. And this happens after 3, 9, 40 days after death. Despite the fact that everyone knows that these days it is necessary to arrange memorial meals, order services in temples and pray hard, few people understand why. In this article, we will tell you about what happens on day 9 with the soul of a person, why this day is so important and how the living can help the soul of the deceased.

According to the Orthodox tradition, a person is buried on the third day. In the first days after death, the soul has great freedom. She is not yet fully aware of the fact of death, so she carries the entire “baggage of life knowledge” with her. All the hopes, attachments, fears and aspirations of the soul draw it to certain places and people.

Death is not the end of the road. This is only a line that everyone passes, but no one from the living knows what is behind it. Today there are many elements cultural heritage associated with death, which were passed down from generation to generation. Some of them serve as a boon to the deceased and his living relatives. So, the commemoration of the dead in Orthodoxy is carried out on the ninth, and subsequently on the fortieth day after the death. Here several questions arise at once: why is this happening and how to calculate The best answer, probably, will be the one given by many clergymen. Today we will talk about this in detail.

First nine days after death

The time from the moment of death to the ninth day is called the formation of the so-called body of eternity. It was then that the soul of the deceased was taken to the places of paradise, and various funeral rites were held in our world.

These days the dead are still in the world of the living, they watch people, hear and see them. Thus the soul says goodbye to the world of the living. So, 9 days are the milestones that every human soul must pass.

Forty days after death

Nine days after the death, he flies to hell to look at the torment of sinners. She does not yet know about her future fate, and the torments that she will see should shock and frighten her. Not everyone has such a chance. Before counting 9 days after death, the relatives of the deceased must ask for repentance for his sins, because when there are too many of them, the soul immediately goes to hell (three days after the death of a person), where it remains until the Last Judgment. Relatives are advised to order a commemoration in the church to mitigate the fate of the deceased.

Show the soul and all the delights of paradise. Saints say that true Happiness lives here, which is inaccessible to man in earthly life. In this place, all desires and dreams come true. Getting to heaven, a person becomes not alone, he is surrounded by angels, as well as other souls. And in hell, the soul is left alone with itself, experiencing terrible torment that never ends. Maybe it is necessary to think about this already today, so that in the future not to commit sins? ..

On the fortieth day after death, the soul of the deceased appears before Doomsday where her fate is decided. She leaves the world of the living forever. At this time, it is also customary to commemorate the deceased with prayers.

How to count 9 days after death?

The countdown of nine days from the death of a person begins on the day he died: until twelve o'clock at night, one day is considered, and after this time, the next. It does not depend on the moment the church day begins (six or seven o'clock in the evening) and when the service is conducted. The countdown must be carried out according to the usual calendar.

It is important that on the ninth day it is necessary to commemorate the deceased. First of all, you need to read a prayer at home and in church. Usually relatives visit the temple, where they order a memorial service. If it is performed in this church not every day, you can order it on the eve of the memorial day.

Funeral meals

Since ancient times, the relatives of a deceased person made a memorial meal for 9 days after his death. Once upon a time, these were dinners for the homeless or poor people, as an almsgiving on behalf of the deceased and for his repose. Now alms are given at the cemetery or in the church, while at home they set the table for relatives and relatives. It must be remembered that at the beginning and at the end you need to say a prayer about who left the earthly world. For this purpose, the Lord's Prayer is read.

The main dish to be tasted is kutya. It is boiled wheat grains with raisins and honey. Before eating, she is sprinkled with holy water. Then you can drink a small glass of wine, but this is not mandatory at the wake.

In Orthodoxy, it is customary to be the first to seat the poor, as well as the elderly and children, at the table. Distribute on the ninth day after the death of a person and his clothes or savings. This is done in order to help the soul of the deceased to be cleansed of all sins and go to heaven.

At the table on this day you can not swear, find out some questions. It is necessary to remember the good events associated with the deceased, speaking positively about him.

If a commemoration falls on a post, it is necessary to adhere to its rules. Meals in this case should be lean, alcohol should be discarded.

Orthodoxy

Loss of a native or loved one can change the worldview, help a person take the first step towards the Lord. Having considered how to count 9 days after death and what happens during this period, one can understand that everyone will be rewarded for his sins in Therefore, in order for only good deeds to prevail in the world of the dead, it is necessary to confess, cleanse your soul right now, living in this world.

Orthodoxy teaches that there is life after death. The soul itself is immortal, it leaves its body and walks the earth until such time as its fate is sealed. This is indicated by ancient scriptures and treatises, religious teachings and the practice of Tibetan studies. Be that as it may, but to this day we observe all the customs and rituals associated with the death of a person.