After talking with a person in the shower discomfort. Energy vampires interfere with life

If during communication with a person, you feel some discomfort and a feeling of depression, then your interlocutor consciously, or without realizing it, puts pressure on your psyche. For a person who does not understand the psychology of behavior, this is simply unpleasant communication that causes certain feelings, irritation, rejection, contempt and some others, in a word, a feeling of discomfort and anxiety. It's all about unconscious communication, the kind of communication that we often communicate with each other. When a person pronounces certain words, he can put his feelings into them, such as contempt, ridicule, anger, envy, and so on, in general, everything that can cause certain emotions in his interlocutor, adequate to what was put into the words that he heard. To put it simply, all spoken words have their own meaning. The words themselves show only the meaning that is open to our understanding, that is, it is simply a decoding of the meaning of the word.

But the hidden meaning is not so easy to notice, it lies in such details as tone, emotionality, rhythm and, most importantly, the time and place when a person speaks about something. And, of course, those feelings and thoughts that a person puts into his words are very important. You yourself have probably heard the same word more than once, but pronounced differently, and in different cases it could cause different emotions in you. People who are skilled in such communication techniques very often manipulate other people, causing them to have a certain idea of ​​\u200b\u200bthemselves. Through dialogue with them. As an example, you can take some beggar, a disabled person or a woman with a child who will play on your guilt and, as a result, pity for them, simply causing you such an emotion, affecting you.

At the same time, there may not be communication itself, but there is an urge to your feelings and that is enough. However, this is still an open form of influence, and it is obvious to many, but what is more difficult to notice is, for example, the communication of two people, in which one of the interlocutors first admires the other, arranging him to himself as much as possible with the help of subtle flattery and great attention , and then casually reduces the conversation to his problems, and how hard it is for him to live such a life in which there is absolutely no one to count on. Such a hint that you should meet certain requirements and be above the rest is often taken automatically. Therefore, it does not matter at all what the interlocutor says, what is more important is why he says it. Here you need to think about what a person may need from you if he communicates with you in such a way as to give you great pleasure.

As you can see, the examples given indicate to us the possible impact on our psyche, through calls to our unconscious thinking. After all, when you are pleased to communicate with a person, thanks to his respectful attitude towards you, you may not think about the goals of his communication, and just enjoy the process. You can be in a company of people where someone talks about his life, just like that, without any specific calls, as if casually mentioning certain details, he talks about himself without any frankly expressed emotions, he does not exalt himself, he does not laugh over himself and does not make fun of others, but at the same time, his disposition towards others occurs. The point is to say what people like to hear, what people have in mind and most importantly, in a language they understand. Then they will listen with pleasure and respond to the person's words in the right way.

People themselves, without realizing it, are imbued with sympathy for such a person, it is not known why, but he begins to like him, because nothing happens just like that, and words are not pronounced just like that. If we return to uncomfortable communication, which is actually what we are talking about, then everything here works according to the same principle. Your unconscious part of the brain receives negative information, this is either aggression against you, or an impulse to do something, or just the interlocutor indicates to you that he is superior to you. Moreover, as I said, the interlocutor may not necessarily understand what he is doing and how he is doing it, just his feelings regarding the one with whom he communicates can encourage him to communicate in a certain way.

For example, it is difficult to communicate with a person as with a simple interlocutor, if you hate him fiercely, or vice versa, love him very much, because your words will be filled with the feelings that you experience, they will carry exactly the information that is actually intended for your interlocutor. That is why this is called unconscious communication, because the words themselves are empty, there is nothing behind them, except for what, with desire and understanding, you can see. As I said, this is material for a whole book, because in order to convey the whole meaning of such unconscious communication and, most importantly, to teach people to see what is actually hidden behind people's words, one must give massive examples with which one can get to the very essence of all this. . So what do you do if you feel uncomfortable when communicating with a person? There are several ways to resolve this situation so that both you and your interlocutor do not play games with the subconscious.

The easiest way is to refuse communication with a person with whom you are not comfortable, because you do not know what is happening, but if you do not like it, then why do you need such communication. If this person is significant to you, maybe this is your relative or you just see him quite often and are forced to contact him, then pay attention to his manner of communication. Take a closer look at the person, whether the slightest bit of expectation slips in his manner of communication, this can be understood by an inquiring look, or by a sharp break in speech, as, in fact, by the desire to communicate with you in general.

If your interlocutor expects something from you, if he often comes up to you and tries to communicate, he clearly needs something, and the best way to find out is to ask a direct and clear question about what he needs from you. Try to ask a question exactly at the moment when the interlocutor is desperately waiting for something from you, when you feel the maximum discomfort from his words. This usually works, because we are all human, and we have emotions that force us to bring our inner feelings to light.

I have given far from all possible examples that may occur during uncomfortable communication, and not all ways to solve such a problem with discomfort, however, understanding at least the nature of such discomfort, you can already control its possible occurrence. As for your response to the unconscious part of your interlocutor, or an unconscious message to his consciousness, something like a counterattack against him, then I will write a separate book about this. It will be a book about the unconscious behavior of people, from which you will learn a lot more.

Kristina Kondratieva is a certified art historian and a successful gallery owner. She promotes new types of contemporary art: icons of Kuznetsov's painting and paintings in the vision style, as well as supporting Russian designers.

The meeting with the icons of Yuri Kuznetsov in 2004 finally determined the path of Christina Kondratieva. She spent the time that had passed since then studying the work of the icon painter, which resulted in the creation of the workshop “Icon of the 21st century. Kuznetsov letter”, as well as the publication of a book of the same name.

In one of the reports about the collection of Christina, the correspondent summed up his impressions with the words: “Christina is sure that before the miraculous letter of the author ( it's about Kuznetsov's icons- approx. ed.) even an unbeliever will seriously think about God. And so it happens! In his icons, people find reconciliation with themselves.

- Was your family religious?

No. Dad was a member of the CPSU, mom was not a member of the party, but adhered to atheistic views. But my grandmother was a believer. She was born in 1912 and always went to church. Her life ran parallel to that of the rest of my family.

Everyone treated my grandmother like a kind of museum exhibit. He goes to church - well, let him go. Since childhood, she had such ideas about the world, about faith, about Orthodoxy, as she absorbed them in her family before the revolution, and she carried this through her whole life. Grandmother asked me to write notes for the repose and for health, because she was illiterate. And I, being a girl, did not really understand why, but I wrote out of respect for my grandmother - although we were taught that there is no God, and all these are relics of the past.

When I was 14-15 years old, an image of the Mother of God, in my opinion, of Kazan, hung near my bed. It was a big poster, and how it appeared and why, I find it difficult to say. At the age of 15, I consciously decided that I wanted to be baptized. Nobody encouraged me to do this, I remember that it was my own desire that arose from within. I told my mom about it and she didn't mind. We chose the temple, I chose my godmother from my friends, the most worthy, as I thought. And at the age of 15, they performed the sacrament of baptism over me. I expected a miracle to happen in my life now. But since it did not happen instantly, and, probably, it should not have happened, for some time I even lost interest in the Church.

Then I lived in Israel from the age of 19 to 21 - my friends and I went to the Promised Land in search of a better life. One of my friends asked me to bless the cross or bring something from Jerusalem - so I went to all the holy places. And gradually, thanks to my stay there, an inner inspiration was born. Later, in Moscow, when I decided that I would be an art critic and entered Moscow State University, then, seeing the holy images in front of me, I finally realized that this world is very dear and close to me, and I want to become a part of it.

How did you meet Yuri Kuznetsov?

Penetration into the world of Christianity in my life took place through inner sensations, primarily through the feeling of love. When I was first shown the icon of Yuri Kuznetsov - and it was the image of the Mother of God “Tenderness”, beloved by Seraphim of Sarov, then, looking at her, I felt this all-encompassing maternal love, and the words from the Holy Scriptures and texts of the holy fathers that the Mother of God is mother of all Christians, became tangible to me. Before me was not just a picture, but the Most Pure Mother of God herself. I couldn't take my eyes off the icon, I wanted it to never end. And, of course, I wanted to get to know the person who created such a work.

Have there been any trials along the way?

Everything that happens in my life is based on the belief that the Lord hears everything, knows everything and will offer the best solution to the issue. When people ask me about the gallery, about how I was able to open it, I answer the same way as about everything else: according to your faith, yes it will be to you. Everything that needs to happen will happen. And the right people will appear, and problems will be solved. Any event requires a blessing, and this is a good habit for me.

What thoughts and feelings do you wake up with in the morning?

I must say that the morning for me is not the most vigorous time of the day. I can not boast that I get up full of strength. But due to the fact that there are Christian values ​​in my life and my favorite thing, for me every new day is a meeting with a miracle. Waking up, I am waiting for this miracle with childish curiosity: what interesting things will the day have in store for me today? And I always look forward to the best. If something not very pleasant happens, I understand that this is necessary in order for that very miracle to happen. And this should be taken calmly, pray and wait for the resolution of the situation.

How do you feel about life changes? There is such an expression of the Chinese sages: "God forbid you live in an era of change."

Our life in principle is not static, it is constantly changing. The icons of Kuznetsov painting that I represent create such a picturesque space that is constantly changing, depending on the angle of view from which you look at it, so that there is a feeling of the living presence of the saint. Therefore, I treat any changes as a natural course of life. If there are no changes, this is where you need to think about. So something has stopped. But everything in life is rhythmic, and movement is the pulse of life. When we feel it, we live. As soon as there is no movement, life stops. Therefore, any change is for the better.

What do you think is the most positive change that has happened to you in your life?

It is that I found my way and connected my life with Orthodoxy. After that, exactly those people came into my life whom I could not have met otherwise. We have a wonderful friendship, and now we can do a lot of things together, develop together.

Before I embarked on this path, I was quite a lonely person. One might think that Christian values ​​require solitude or withdrawal from real life. Everything turned out the other way around for me: thanks to the fact that Christianity came into my life, everything else came along with it - people dear and close to me, an interesting life. Everything that is in my life is due to this.

You are surrounded by beauty, and you yourself are a very beautiful woman. How can you explain what a woman's beauty is?

A beautiful woman is one whose eyes burn with love, kindness, compassion, warmth towards the one they look at. If there is love in the heart, it, like an inner fire, makes the outer side of life beautiful as well. The most important thing is the beauty of the soul.

Is it good to be with this person? So he is handsome. If after talking with a person you want to do something good, you are in a good mood, then you have received a portion of beauty.

For me, an example of ideal beauty in life is a flower. In the Bible, flowers are given a lot of space, because the flower is the personification of the full acceptance of God's will and maximum return. In favorable conditions, the flower grows, opens and gives us its beauty. We admire it, enjoy the aroma, and it inspires us to positive changes, good deeds and deeds. If we are like flowers, we are sure to do what we have to do and get as close to God as possible.

And what, in your opinion, is the purpose of a woman in the modern world?

A woman can give a lot. She is able to love, her love is compassionate, and if she finds the strength to give this love, first of all, to her loved ones, then she will fulfill her destiny.

If we look at what the way of life of a woman was, say, a hundred years ago and what it is now, we will see two different images. But, nevertheless, both then and now, women's love and compassion are very important, the ability to understand, forgive, accept, take on someone else's pain - not a physical burden, but what lies on the soul of another person, to lighten his burden in the spiritual and spiritually.

Why is a woman wife the best support for her husband? She sees him in both strength and weakness. If she supports him in weakness, not letting him know that she felt his weakness, then he will feel strong and will be able to be a protector and support for the whole family.

The statement made in the title, many do not cause any doubts. Surely you have often felt completely empty after communicating with a person? And, most surprisingly, the conversation could well have been calm, non-conflict, but, nevertheless, there is a feeling that you have literally been squeezed out like a lemon - such a breakdown and devastation. All these sensations are just signs that you have talked with an energy vampire.

It's one thing if these are casual contacts, for example, in a store, with passers-by, in an institution - they can be avoided. And if energy vampires surround you at home, at work, are listed as friends and acquaintances? Then your life can turn into a nightmare in which you will constantly feel worse and worse, falling into depression and acquiring diseases of the nervous system.

How to recognize people - energy vampires? To do this, you need to understand that the goal of such a person, often even unconscious to him, is to draw energy out of you, increase your own tone, gain strength at your expense. To do this, he needs to evoke a certain emotional reaction in you. A variety of methods are used, and not only rudeness, offensive statements, slander, intrigues.

The methods used to unbalance the interlocutor at any cost are so diverse that we often do not even know about it. For example, your eternally suffering and aching girlfriend, who regularly cries to you about a hard life and an unhappy fate, is a typical energy vampire, because she loads you with her problems, constantly demanding sympathy and support, and does not want to make at least a small effort to change the situation on her own. . A boring colleague with whom it is absolutely impossible to solve a single problem, a jealous admirer who constantly arranges scenes for you for no reason - these are also vampires.

If in the process of communication you begin to feel inexplicable anxiety and ever-increasing fatigue, headache and an unpleasant feeling of pressure, there is an energy vampire next to you, the attack of which you were subjected to. They say that indoor plants and even household appliances feel the presence of energy vampires, so they rarely have indoor flowers in the house and all kinds of appliances break down quite often.

If there are such people among your acquaintances, then think about how much you need to communicate with them. In the end, you yourself form the circle of your acquaintances and friends, so there is no need to communicate with a person who is unpleasant or uninteresting to you. And, even more so, listen to his complaints, problems, delve into his worries and troubles. It will be safer for you not to attract the attention of such people, especially not to enter into friendly relations with them and not react to their speeches.

But, if your relative, colleague or boss is the energy vampire, communication with which you cannot avoid, then try to control yourself, not get annoyed, do not allow yourself to splash out emotions, because this is what vampires are trying to achieve. On the contrary, you should be able to get away from the conflict, demonstrate indifference and disinterest with all your might, or turn the conversation into a joke. An unplanned and unexpected reaction, such as a smile or laughter, will dampen the interest of the energy vampire and cause him to stop attacking you.

But you yourself should not provoke such an attitude towards you. Do not be frank with strangers, even if they are your old acquaintances, do not complain and do not talk about your troubles and problems, do not share secrets and worries. Otherwise, if you do not see the vampire and open up to him, your problems will only get worse.

Psychics advise when communicating with people who use your strength and energy to use a simple trick: you need to interlace the fingers of both hands and put your folded hands on the solar plexus, and bring your feet together (or just cross your arms and legs). Thus, you seem to form a closed circuit and protect your biofield from psychic attack. And try to mentally erect a barrier for the vampire - it will be very difficult for him to break through it.

If, nevertheless, the communication that exhausts you has taken place, and you feel bad, drink warm tea, relax, try to forgive if you were offended. Listen to your favorite music or take a walk among the trees - they draw off negative energy and process it into positive.

The question often arises - where do energy vampires come from, how do they become them? Experts say that the roots of the problem are laid in childhood. Vampires are often children from dysfunctional families or who have grown up without love and attention. If a child does not feel love for himself, often hears reproaches addressed to him, he grows up capricious, and with the conviction that you need to take a lot from life and immediately, until no one takes it away.

Sometimes too spoiled children become energy vampires, who are used to the fact that the whole world revolves around them, and those around them fulfill their slightest desires. They get used to living at someone else's expense from childhood. So parents with children should pay attention to how they grow up, so that in the future both they and those who will be with your children live easier and more comfortable.

How to protect yourself from an energy vampire?

Why, after communicating with some people, there is a feeling of unreasonable irritability, the mood deteriorates sharply, there is a feeling that you have been “squeezed out like a lemon”? Where does this mysterious feeling of fatigue come from? Most likely, your friend is an energy vampire. But how to distinguish an energy vampire from an ordinary person? How to calmly communicate with him and not feel a breakdown later?

There are several signs by which you can identify an energy vampire.

1. The main distinguishing feature of a vampire is that they always annoy and piss off other people. Any little thing can serve as a reason for a quarrel. They can also humiliate the interlocutor in the presence of others, laugh at him and play an evil joke to cause irritation. They can borrow money and not give it back. However, they will constantly promise "as soon as possible."

2. Energy vampires are suspicious people, bores and selfish. Often they simply do not hear the interlocutor, because the vampire does not care about his opinion, his thoughts and feelings.

3. The energy vampire is very jealous and vengeful. The vampire protects his personal donor from the outside world, surrounds him with increased attentiveness and care, and is jealous of other people.

4. Energy vampires can talk on the phone for hours. They immediately load their interlocutor with their problems and failures. The conversation resembles ordinary chatter about nothing, but after it, for some reason, you begin to feel tired and depressed. It is very difficult to get rid of the energy vampire, resentment immediately begins. Sometimes you just have to turn off your phone.

5. There is an opinion that in the presence of energy vampires, equipment constantly breaks down and flowers wither. At home, they also most often do not have flowers, they simply do not like them, or the flowers themselves do not grow.

6. Vampires love crowds: lines, demonstrations, big stores. Vampires like to appear where there is a high probability of scandal. Scandal is an additional source of energy for them.

It is worth saying that there are also mixed types: the same person can manifest himself in different situations both as an energy vampire and as a donor. Among energy vampires, there are often charming and kind people who simply do not notice their negative impact on other people.

It often happens when one relative lives off the energy of another. This can be expressed in scandals, showdown. However, the family can be considered generally ideal, but someone in it is constantly sick and is generally considered a loser. This person gives his energy to the vampire. By the way, when there are two vampires in a family, they either constantly swear and disperse, or they live “in perfect harmony” and draw energy from outside connections.

It happens that a vampire is waiting for you at work. What if it's also the boss? Such a vampire does not like when a good mood reigns around him, he will do everything to spoil this mood. It's useless to convince him.

There is another curious species of vampires - these are sex vampires. At the moment of orgasm, a person is filled with positive energy. And vampires take this energy and give nothing in return. After sexual contact with an energy vampire, his partner feels disharmony and dissatisfaction.

So, if among these characteristics you recognize your acquaintance, friend, relative or even loved one, the question arises what to do?

Firstly, it is better not to communicate with an energy vampire at all. And especially if the person is unpleasant and uninteresting to you. Do not attract the attention of energy vampires, do not enter into friendly relations with them and do not do good deeds for them by bending yourself. They still don't appreciate it. And they will simply take away energy as soon as they feel weak.

Second, don't get angry! The purpose of the vampire is your irritation, this is your weak spot. Instead of becoming annoyed and angry, simply either walk away from the conflict, or vice versa, make your reaction unexpected for the vampire. For example, make a joke or smile instead of crying.

Thirdly, protect your energy and biofield. To do this, cross your legs or arms while talking to the vampire. You can keep a fig in your pocket. You can imagine that between you and the vampire is a thick mirror, the reflection of which is directed at the vampire.

If it is not possible not to communicate with an energy vampire, then try to perceive your interlocutor with humor. And laugh off the vampire's rude statements. Rest assured, he cannot stand it and will not be able to harm you.

And irritation and fatigue from an energy vampire can be removed with the help of your favorite music, films, poems, books, aromatic oils. After contact with a vampire or after being in crowded places, you need to take a contrast shower and drink your favorite hot tea. Take a walk among the trees, they draw off negative energy and process it into positive.